Nico Choksi

The hyper-individualist finds himself enmeshed in a network of conditional love. I am worthy of being loved only when I have achieved the status or success the world expects of me. I am worthy of love only when I can offer the other person something in return. I am what the world says about me. In the end, hyper-individualism doesn’t make people se

Life is filled with vampire problems. Marriage turns you into a different person. Having kids changes who you are and what you want. So does emigrating to a new country, converting to a different religion, going to med school, joining the Marines, changing careers, and deciding on where to live. Every time you make a commitment to something big, yo

Our response to that is, who cares about controlling people? We treat people like adults by setting mutual goals and letting you decide how to hit them.

No one man, however brilliant or well-informed, can come in one lifetime to such fullness of understanding as to safely judge and dismiss the customs or institutions of his society, for these are the wisdom of generations after centuries of experiment in the laboratory of history.

Three to five rounds of contact will solidify the relationship. Not every round of contact needs to be an in-person meeting—it can be enough to send a quick message.

You should hire a sales team only when two conditions are met: You have found an initial version of product-market fit. This means that a significant proportion of your paying customers are renewing their contracts. You have figured out what you are selling and whom you are selling to.

Cleve felt the awkwardness, and within himself an excitement that he was instantly ashamed of.

writes Burgis. “A hierarchy of values is especially critical when choices have to be made between good things.”