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Ultimately what both sexes need, I think, is a cultural message that it’s okay to depend on each other. We should depend on our partners—to stay, to be faithful, to give support. And from that we can be more independent. Long-term relationships shouldn’t be about losing yourself, but becoming more of who you are.

Here’s something I’m very thankful I was told while I was still in my 20s: that the point of all this “hard work” is to recognize the person it makes you, not what it “gets” you

And you know, we have all these negative words for long-term commitment now. “Settling” has become a bad thing. But I love that word. Settling down. Settling your nervous system. Because only once you’re settled, can you play.

Koga came to realize as he got older that success is not finite; choice is. He shares, “In your twenties, you’re afforded a lot of choice because you likely have fewer considerations: no mortgage, no health condition, no children or aging parents. As you grow older, your choices tend to narrow—not because you can’t actually do things, but that you... See more

Gisele Pélicot said she had recognised only one of her alleged rapists, a man who had come to discuss cycling with her husband at their home. “I saw him now and then in the bakery; I would say hello. I never thought he’d come and rape me,” she said.

In the age of being extremely online, comparison is at our fingertips and low self-esteem can be temporarily cured with a quick internet applause. What I’m getting at is, I don’t think we’re talking enough about the importance of getting really, really quiet.