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juliana ong
- the concept of inverse charisma:
E. M. Forster wrote, “To speak to him was to be seduced by an inverse charisma, a sense of being listened to with such intensity that you had to be your most honest, sharpest, and best self.”
What's in the cards?
I really believe that the only way to find relief from anxiety, to find self-esteem, self-respect, self-love—everything we’re searching for and is so prized in modern culture—is trying to live a more virtuous life.
N.S. Lyons • A World In Upheaval
historically, marriage was an economic arrangement between families. And now it’s an identity project — two individuals seeking self-actualization
Nayeema Raza • Feeling Unsatisfied? Blame ‘Romantic Consumerism,’ Says Esther Perel
Humans are fundamentally conflicted. One of the foundational conflicts in psychology is between self-enhancement, or the desire to feel good about who we are, and self-accuracy, or having an honest, realistic understanding of ourselves.
The art of living, like any other art, is the art of learning to work creatively within the constraints of the medium.
L. M. Sacasas • The Art of Living
The internet has fundamentally altered the conditions under which genuine self-expression can exist. The solution isn’t to perform authenticity harder, but to recognise and jealously guard the remaining places where real authenticity might still be possible: in unrecorded conversations, in private moments, in closed networks that haven’t yet been... See more
Eugene Healey • Gen Z and gen Alpha brought a raw, messy aesthetic to social media. Why does it feel as inauthentic as ever? | Eugene Healey
If you poll a group of strangers on their biggest fears, I imagine that you would hear a collection of answers like, “dying,” “public speaking,” “flying,” and “family illness.” But I think, for most people, the real answer to this question lies deep in their subconscious, and it only surfaces it when risks becoming a reality: the fear of not... See more