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No one deserves to be praised for kindness if he does not have the strength to be bad
And just as emotional language has entered the business world — where we talk about psychological safety and vulnerability — business language has seeped into romantic relationships. We want “return on investment” and to “hedge our bets” and “this is not a deal I signed up for.”
The Cost of Modern Love
It is in relationships that we discover both our depths and our limits, there that we anneal ourselves and transcend ourselves, there that we are hurt the most and there that we find the most healing.
- the concept of inverse charisma:
E. M. Forster wrote, “To speak to him was to be seduced by an inverse charisma, a sense of being listened to with such intensity that you had to be your most honest, sharpest, and best self.”
What's in the cards?
And so the trick is, can you force yourself to be absolutely unsparingly realistic about what’s actually best for you?
It reveals that as a woman in the world, if you don’t decide your needs, they will be decided for you. That without a value system, you can be convinced of anything. That you can get engaged before you’re ready, married before you’ve settled on a world-view. That there is a series of misleading narratives and patriarchal pressures that can, if... See more
Defining time well spent for yourself is one of the most important tasks of going day to day in this life.
‘The rituals of eating,’ Sarah Wigglesworth wrote in 2002, ‘played out on the plane of the dining table are similar to the rituals of domestic life.’ These drawings of a dining table before (top), during (centre), and after (bottom) a meal, drawn by Wigglesworth, explore how the relationship between diners around a table can be compared to the interactions between occupants in the home.