juliana ong

In the age of being extremely online, comparison is at our fingertips and low self-esteem can be temporarily cured with a quick internet applause. What I’m getting at is, I don’t think we’re talking enough about the importance of getting really, really quiet.

Here’s something I’m very thankful I was told while I was still in my 20s: that the point of all this “hard work” is to recognize the person it makes you, not what it “gets” you

In Freudian language, ambivalence is the ability to hold contradictory feelings toward a person. A child loves their mother, but can also sometimes be extremely angry at her. A person holds love and hate, attraction and disgust, excitement and boredom, connection and disconnection with a person. The ability to be able to hold these contradictions... See more

Put another way, a major reason everyone is so exhausted is because we have been taught to always strive for better, even if we have only the vaguest notion of what that “better” would look like, and even if it means viewing everything in our world as raw material that could potentially be utilized toward that end. But obedience to something... See more

First of all, I think you’re documenting too much if there’s things that you document that you don’t go back to.