harry a

The Myth of Willpower is the idea that virtue lies in exerting extreme effort to overcome obstacles, and that any success attained without effort is actually bad, bordering on immoral. The truth is that high-agency people are always looking for shortcuts.

My general rule is when I feel the twinge of distraction or boredom or exhaustion that urges me to put down my book, I must read ten more pages. (you can of course do five, or two, or twenty, or whatever feels right.) Typically i get so re-engaged over those ten more pages that I end up reading twenty or thirty. When talking about this to my... See more

And maybe this is the real status symbol now: not being owned by your own reactions, not needing every feeling to be witnessed, not needing every desire to be justified, not needing to turn your inner life into proof of anything.

Loneliness is not necessarily a feeling that requires a response.

Watch your mind sometime and you’ll realize that it’s always answering questions. Fear is an answer to what could go wrong. Pain is an answer to what’s missing. You’ll quickly realize that the mind naturally goes for the negative, not the light. So you must consciously ask yourself empowering questions. Ones that result in you making loving choices

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Because we can’t ever explain everything. At some point we have to stop analysing and seeing through things and accept the unknowable.