love?

There is a trope in romance that when you meet the person you are supposed to be with, you can talk about anything. You can apparently inverse that too: if you talk about anything that pops into your mind, you can tell if you're supposed to be with the person by judging their reaction.

In his new book, Bonded By Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection , Eastwick writes that “our evolutionary instincts don’t prime us to chase the most attractive or high-status partner we can find. . . . Rather, we crave attachment bonds with partners who can meet our needs in good times and bad.”

I remind people that at no point did this feel reckless or brave, but just the obvious thing to do. At some point, you have to act, and accept that whatever comes next will be shaped by the acting itself. There are moments when thinking becomes a kind of superstition, a way of mistaking caution for wisdom

I knew either this man would break my heart or I’d marry him, a terrifying feeling that, if you ever have it, you should savor.