Dean Millson

True Vulnerability

• Vulnerability in conversations involves exposing oneself to potential judgment, fostering deeper connection.


• Sharing something you could be judged on fast-forwards intimacy.

Those are the basic “do’s” of coping with flooding—now, a couple of important “don’ts.” Don’t … ever say, “Honey, I think you’re getting flooded. You should take a break.” (Your partner may feel blamed and condescended to and remind you that you’re no mind reader.) Say instead, “Honey, I think we need to take a break. Let’s come back in an hour and

2. The opposite of a good idea, can also be a good idea

This is Rory Sutherland’s excellent reformulation of a quote from the physicist Niels Bohr:

“There are trivial truths and there are great truths. The opposite of a trivial truth is plainly false. The opposite of a great truth is also true.”

This week I have been working on the subject of “Better F

Our fascination with memory artists can also be explained by this tradition. There is nothing interesting about the capability of a normal person to remember thousands of words, countless facts, numerous subjects, the names of celebrities, friends, family members and colleagues over a long period of time. But when someone is able to remember a seri

Even in hard times, focus on possibilities rather than limitations.

What group or individual could take responsibility for the West appropriating Sami culture in the most barbaric ways at Christmas time? Their shamans were generous enough, early last century, to share with outsiders some spiritual practices involving red and white fly agaric mushrooms in that season, only to have elements of those rituals stolen an

Personal Journaling Anecdote

• Ryan Holiday shares an experience of being wronged by a journalist.


• Through journaling, he avoided a negative confrontation and moved on.

To be truly countercultural today, in a time of tech hegemony, one has to, above all, betray the platform, which may come in the form of betraying or divesting from your public online self.