Cyrus Chen

Have you ever tried to confront someone and every sentence you say they flip back on you or change the subject? They’re not going to hear you. They do that because your level of honesty threatens their control. Their focus is how to regain control, not to help you feel heard.

America is finally being run like a business: a business acquired by private equity that’s being stripped for parts before being liquidated.

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Was thinking today: About how so many of us survivors of narcissist abuser relationships were the product of childhoods lived in homes without kindness, tenderness, or love but with anger, hatred, and all forms of abuse. There is a direct correlation. And also, how impossible it

Robert Hass, from “February: Question” in “February Notebooks: The Rains,” Summer Snow: New Poems (Ecco, 2020) https://t.co/rMULECESja

my therapist was telling me today that there's no disappointment when you accept things or people for what they are. but you don't always have to cut people off when they don't meet your expectations sometimes you just have to adjust the relationship + accept their capacity.

The most counterintuitive thing I've learned about effectiveness is that it has little to do with pushing harder. The moments of greatest impact often come when we slow down enough to feel what's actually needed. Not what our strategic mind says is needed. Not what looks good on paper. But what the situation is actually calling for. This is... See more