CPTSD
You're not weird for struggling w/ phone calls. Many trauma survivors experience a very specific spike of anxiety around making (or receiving, for that matter) calls-- & many keep our reactions under wraps, because we're not "supposed" to be triggered by something so "normal."
💜 I thought everyone did this? I do it all the time. 💜
#selftalk #triggered https://t.co/U4RaNu6lrr
REACTIVE ABUSE
Is when someone pushes you until you act out of character.
Then, they shame you for your reaction.
If you hold a match to a candle, sooner or later, it will start to burn.
I just realized people who overexplain themselves aren’t looking for validation. They’re just used to not being believed - forced to prove their memories, their pain, their worth, their truth - until they’re exhausted from just existing.
Was thinking today: About how so many of us survivors of narcissist abuser relationships were the product of childhoods lived in homes without kindness, tenderness, or love but with anger, hatred, and all forms of abuse. There is a direct correlation.
And also, how impossible it
Your responsibility is to your safety, your stability, your needs, your values, & your goals. You don't have to apologize. It doesn't make you "bad" or "selfish" or "mean."
The kindest, most supportive people on earth take care of themselves & honor their needs. Really.
