CPTSD
đź’ś I thought everyone did this? I do it all the time. đź’ś
#selftalk #triggered https://t.co/U4RaNu6lrr
REACTIVE ABUSE
Is when someone pushes you until you act out of character.
Then, they shame you for your reaction.
If you hold a match to a candle, sooner or later, it will start to burn.
It's common for complex trauma survivors to feel a little panicky when we feel we're not being listened to or not being perceived or understood accurately. Our nervous system was molded by experiences of being functionally invisible-- & that invisibility leading to pain & shame.
No one is all good or all bad. If someone pushes your buttons, you choose to only see the bad. If someone makes you feel good, you choose to only see the good. We all contain multitudes though, and I refuse to stop seeing the complexity in my fellow humans.
“You’re so sensitive” is often the only words someone can come up with to deflect how clearly you’re describing their harmful behavior.
Was thinking today: About how so many of us survivors of narcissist abuser relationships were the product of childhoods lived in homes without kindness, tenderness, or love but with anger, hatred, and all forms of abuse. There is a direct correlation.
And also, how impossible it