Winning vs. Losing
Now that I've won a slam, I know something very few people on earth are permitted to know. A win doesn't feel as good as a loss feels bad, and the good feeling doesn't last long as the bad. Not even close.
Andre Agassi • Open: An Autobiography
The pain of losing > the joy of winning
It is never about winning. It is never about losing. It is only about contributing. It is only about learning.
Brian Collins • 101 Design Rules
Becase this freedom comes at a cost - in fact you'll probably need to die a little death.
It does get easier
The cost of freedom
“The secret to winning is learning how to lose.
That is, learning to bounce back from failure and disappointment—undeterred—and continuing to steadily march toward your potential.
Your response to failure determines your capacity for success.”
That is, learning to bounce back from failure and disappointment—undeterred—and continuing to steadily march toward your potential.
Your response to failure determines your capacity for success.”
3-2-1: On the Best Exercise, the Secret to Winning, and Dealing With Disappointment | James Clear
Second, being wrong hurts us more than being right feels good. We know from Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky’s work on loss aversion, part of prospect theory (which won Kahneman the Nobel Prize in Economics in 2002), that losses in general feel about two times as bad as wins feel good. So winning $100 at blackjack feels as good to us as losing $50
... See moreAnnie Duke • Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts
But even if I had a word like it, the nerd never disturbed
It's absurd but I'm looking 'round and ain't nobody verse me
I don't think a mothafucka's ever tried to hurt me
Everyone I see has been supportive on this journey
Like where my haters at? I'm thirsty (Uh)
I just really wanna talk my shit, be like, "Y'all ain't shit"
But y'all ain't shit, like, y'... See more
It's absurd but I'm looking 'round and ain't nobody verse me
I don't think a mothafucka's ever tried to hurt me
Everyone I see has been supportive on this journey
Like where my haters at? I'm thirsty (Uh)
I just really wanna talk my shit, be like, "Y'all ain't shit"
But y'all ain't shit, like, y'... See more
LilDicky – The Antagonist
Where are the haters at?
Finite games are won with intensity. Infinite games are won with consistency.
-Shane Parrish
long vs short term winning
Talking about winning (even if we are identifying mistakes along the way to a win) is less painful than talking about losing, allowing new habits to be more easily trained. Identifying mistakes in hands I won reinforced the separation between outcomes and decision quality. These discussions also made me feel good about analyzing and questioning my
... See moreAnnie Duke • Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts
Learn from your losses and separate outcomes vs decisions
"Winning is great, sure, but if you are really going to do something in life, the secret is learning how to lose. Nobody goes undefeated all the time. If you can pick up after a crushing defeat, and go on to win again, you are going to be a champion someday.
Wilma Rudolph - Quotes, Death & Facts
Losing is needed to appreciate winning