what even is perfectionism??
boy, this single word sure does mean a lot of things to a lot of people, huh?
what even is perfectionism??
Perfectionism has nothing to do with getting it right. It has nothing to do with fixing things. It has nothing to do with standards. Perfectionism is a refusal to let yourself move ahead. It is a loop—an obsessive, debilitating closed system that causes you to get stuck in the details of what you are writing or painting or making and to lose sight
... See morePerfection is a paradox—you can never become perfect, and you already are perfect. A perfectionist in an adaptive mindset believes both those statements are true. A perfectionist in a maladaptive mindset believes both those statements are false.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
“And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.”
-John Steinbeck
Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval. Most perfectionists grew up being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule following, people pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, they adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it.
... See moreBrené Brown • Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts.
Perfectionism is easy to see on someone. Physically it is a rigidity in the musculature and there can be stunted tones in the voice. Mentally they are often second-guessing themselves, hesitant, and overly precise.
Joe Hudson • Tweet
If there is such a thing as human perfection, it seems to emerge precisely from how we handle the imperfection that is everywhere, especially our own. – Richard Rohr
Most people live their lives in between these 2 emotions-
1. Hope that if they achieve something, they will find happiness.
2. Fear that if they lose what they have, they will never be happy.
The day you understand neither of them are actually true is the day you are free.
1. Hope that if they achieve something, they will find happiness.
2. Fear that if they lose what they have, they will never be happy.
The day you understand neither of them are actually true is the day you are free.