what even is perfectionism??
boy, this single word sure does mean a lot of things to a lot of people, huh?
what even is perfectionism??
perfectionism is a personality trait in which we constantly see the gap between how things are and how they could be (in ourselves, our environment, our relationships, and the world), and feel the compulsive drive to close that gap with our actions. perfectionists can’t just let it be. they are driven to make things better, even at high personal
... See moreIf there is such a thing as human perfection, it seems to emerge precisely from how we handle the imperfection that is everywhere, especially our own. – Richard Rohr
Often when people are stuck in life it’s because they’re holding out for the delusional possibility of a costless way of getting what they want, instead of just paying the cost
Sasha Chapinx.comPerfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval. Most perfectionists grew up being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule following, people pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, they adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it.
... See moreBrené Brown • Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts.
Wanting to be enough for someone else is self-abandonment.
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my working definition of perfectionism is that it's the pathological need to be perceived as both special and exceptional, because you learned that love and acceptance are conditional on being perceived that way