things you should remember

And to extend this: I see people online constantly lamenting that they can't make or keep friends in adulthood, as if friendship is something that just happens to you rather than something you actively create. This, too, requires intentional effort. Want to get invited to dinner parties? Start throwing them. Menu planning, grocery runs, washing dis... See more

The fundamentals: Something many people know, but few people practice

One is that it’s easy to mistake silence for informed diplomacy. If your manager is stressing you out, and you are putting up with it, it’s easy to think that you’re just being a good employee, and everyone is aware of how good you’re being. But unless your manager is quite emotionally intelligent, they may have no idea that you’re unhappy, especia... See more

Communication failures like these make for good storytelling where we, the audience, get to watch the characters stumble towards understanding. But you shouldn’t live like someone waiting for the screenwriter of your life to arrange a convenient resolution. Functional people don’t let things linger unspoken — they name what’s facing them out loud.

Optimize for enthusiasm. Make as many choices as you can that leave you feeling energetic and interested. Pay attention to when you have the urge to pursue or participate in something and do more of it

The weight of what we make matters.

Creative people are restless souls, forever chasing the horizon until they’ve made something substantial. We spend our lives crafting weighted blankets for ourselves—something heavy enough to anchor our ambition and quiet our minds.

Weight is tangible in the physical world—a place we should care about and create m... See more

The fact of the matter is whether as a human being, business, or brand, conviction born of self-knowldege is the thing that gets us through uncertainty, adversity, and turbulence. It is the root of agency, because it clarifies choices and decisions. Being deliberate and decisive, having real intention and doing things on purpose is impossible witho... See more

And then I paid attention. Not just to what the tools could do, but to how they made me feel. How were they changing me? The nature of work? What it feels like to be human.

Some areas of life reward your best day. Others punish your worst day. Know which situation you're in, and you can better decide when to be risky and when to play it safe."