I firmly believe that we we seek is seeking us and the fastest way to attract what’s meant for us all is to express yourself so honestly that everything misaligned falls away on its own. The more clearly someone speaks clearly from their centre, the more easily the right people, places, and possibilities can recognise their signal.

What is exciting? What repels? What stands out?

If someone likes you best when you are vague, it means they fell in love with what they painted over you, not the actual contours of your selfhood. So when you begin to articulate your values, preferences, boundaries, they may pull away, because they never met you in the first place. The work of becoming specific, then, is also an act of... See more