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All of the barriers to change that I’ve studied, that others have studied, they aren’t the kinds of things that you can cure. It’s not like you can say, ‘‘Oh, now I understand that present bias and impulsivity are a thing. I’m just going to get rid of that for myself.’’ No, we’ll always gravitate towards things that are instantly gratifying and und... See more

Paul Rand • The science behind forming better habits, with Katy Milkman

Katy Milkman

The most effective way to change your habits is to focus not on what you want to achieve, but on who you wish to become. Your identity emerges out of your habits. Every action is a vote for the type of person you wish to become. Becoming the best version of yourself requires you to continuously edit your beliefs, and to upgrade and expand your iden

James Clear • Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

Second, you don’t have to be perfect. Making a mistake once or twice has no measurable impact on your long-term habits. This is why you should treat failure like a scientist, give yourself permission to make mistakes, and develop strategies for getting back on track quickly.

How Long Does it Actually Take to Form a New Habit? (Backed by Science)

“Becoming is better than being.” The fixed mindset does not allow people the luxury of becoming. They have to already be.

Carol S. Dweck • Mindset - Updated Edition: Changing The Way You think To Fulfil Your Potential

When you fall in love with the process rather than the product, you don’t have to wait to give yourself permission to be happy. You can be satisfied anytime your system is running. And a system can be successful in many different forms, not just the one you first envision.

James Clear • Forget About Setting Goals. Focus on This Instead.

On average, it takes more than 2 months before a new behavior becomes automatic — 66 days to be exact. And how long it takes a new habit to form can vary widely depending on the behavior, the person, and the circumstances. In Lally’s study, it took anywhere from 18 days to 254 days for people to form a new habit.

How Long Does it Actually Take to Form a New Habit? (Backed by Science)

James Clear

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Fundamental personal change is often painful because it is so very transformational. And we cannot become everything we are meant to be without leaving behind who we once were.

Robin Sharma • The Everyday Hero Manifesto: Activate Your Positivity, Maximize Your Productivity, Serve The World

Achieving a goal only changes your life for the moment. That’s the counterintuitive thing about improvement. We think we need to change our results, but the results are not the problem. What we really need to change are the systems that cause those results. When you solve problems at the results level, you only solve them temporarily. In order to i... See more

James Clear • Forget About Setting Goals. Focus on This Instead.

real change happens at the systems level