taking care of myself
by kaykay · updated 5mo ago
taking care of myself
- We might ‘dissociate’ and do the opposite: we check out, numb ourselves, engage in escapism, or fixate harder on connecting with others. In a state of dissociation, it is hard to advocate for our needs, our boundaries, and our limits. In addition, many of us have excellent auto-pilot functions and masking skills for when we dissociate, which can so... See more
from The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
kaykay added 5mo ago
- More importantly, it’s about listening to your own self like you really, really matter. It’s taking time to actually connect with yourself, ask yourself the deep and meaningful questions about who you are, what makes you tick, and what you absolutely don’t want to do.
from The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
kaykay added 5mo ago
make it a point to take myself on dates and ask myself about these questions, check in and make sure I am staying authentic. being reflective of how I am showing up for others and myself.
- What we often think of as needs are actually strategies for addressing our needs. For example, you might want a cup of coffee in the morning. That’s not a need (much as it might feel like it is!). The need might be to feel more alert. Or to warm up. Or to engage in a shared social activity with a loved one in the kitchen. The cup of coffee is a str... See more
from The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
kaykay added 5mo ago
I need to feel freedom, so I come up with strategies to experience it, but they are often painful because I’m not directly expressing the need for it. So, how can I directly pursue my need for freedom?
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