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- To keep critical feedback in the first category, the research tells us that it should have five elements: the care of the recipient in mind; respectful delivery; good intentions; a pathway to improvement; and appropriate targeting of the recipient’s needs.
from How to Take—And Give—Criticism Well
The Semi-Sadistic 7-Minute Workout
- What we often think of as needs are actually strategies for addressing our needs. For example, you might want a cup of coffee in the morning. That’s not a need (much as it might feel like it is!). The need might be to feel more alert. Or to warm up. Or to engage in a shared social activity with a loved one in the kitchen. The cup of coffee is a str... See more
from The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
I need to feel freedom, so I come up with strategies to experience it, but they are often painful because I’m not directly expressing the need for it. So, how can I directly pursue my need for freedom?
- More importantly, it’s about listening to your own self like you really, really matter. It’s taking time to actually connect with yourself, ask yourself the deep and meaningful questions about who you are, what makes you tick, and what you absolutely don’t want to do.
from The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
make it a point to take myself on dates and ask myself about these questions, check in and make sure I am staying authentic. being reflective of how I am showing up for others and myself.
- We might ‘dissociate’ and do the opposite: we check out, numb ourselves, engage in escapism, or fixate harder on connecting with others. In a state of dissociation, it is hard to advocate for our needs, our boundaries, and our limits. In addition, many of us have excellent auto-pilot functions and masking skills for when we dissociate, which can so... See more
from The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
- There should be lots of different, human-scale alternative experiences on the internet that offer up home-cooked, locally-grown, ethically-sourced, code-to-table alternatives to the factory-farmed junk food of the internet. And they should be weird.
from The Internet Is About to Get Weird Again by Anil Dash
As a political theorist, hooks believed fiercely in the power of naming systems—her recurring phrase, in defining what we are up against, was “white supremacist capitalist patriarchy.”5 But she was far more ambivalent about the impulse to attach identity signifiers to our beings, to brand ourselves as a this, or a that. In her landmark 1984 book, F
... See morefrom Doppelganger: A Trip Into the Mirror World by Naomi Klein
- we all have needs that need to be tended to. I always wonder, what if care is the work? What if caring for ourselves is the revolution, meaning, what would happen if we divested from dismantling white supremacist capitalist patriarchy and invested our energy in equitizing the care we are able to provide one another?
from What if care is the work? by Alexis Aceves Garcia
patriarchy mystifies technology, casting it as a domain beyond the possibility of comprehension for all but certain experts. Mystification hides the economics of accumulation that technologies serve, turning people’s attention to a marvelous innovation instead of the extraction it enables.
from Governable Spaces: Democratic Design for Online Life by Nathan Schneider
