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There is a corollary for relationships. Some relationships are hard, or even impossible, to change. As an individual, you grow—but your father won’t acknowledge that change or adapt to it, and the relationship gets stuck. Other relationships are fluid and open-ended, they grow to fit you better and better the more time you invest in them, like an o... See more

It also touches on the Mandela Effect, ie. many people recalling the same event that never happened, or remembering details that don't reflect reality. Some people see the Mandela Effect as a form of glitched cultural deja vu, while others think it's just common misinterpretation, like mishearing lyrics to a popular song.

While those sorts of reactions might feel like the right things to do at the time, they don’t really help: instead of feeling better, we will likely feel even worse. Our whole body might be filled with even more uncomfortable sensations: those are the “second darts” we create, which we then react to even more, by which discomfort or physical pain t... See more

o my surprise, looking for a "self" was much more straightforward than I thought it would be. Many other things were seen (and heard, felt, etc.), such as thoughts about breakfast, memories about what had happened the day before, noises in the room, discomfort in my body: all that was definitely there. And my mind was quiet enough that, if there wa... See more

An important distinction to make, therefore, is the difference between a fetter and a behavior which indicates we have that fetter. For example, craving itself is not a fetter; it is merely a symptom of being fettered by desire. While we and those around us might tend to notice behaviors and consider those to be fetters, the actual fetter is the re... See more