self trust

If you can’t say “no” easily, you can’t be trusted.

one of the most exhausting habits, maybe even addictions, is the desire to want to be seen accurately, judged correctly, understood perfectly

there is power in letting distortion exist

when the need to be understood loosens, the energy returns to what actually wants to be made

If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved

You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.

Forgiveness performed from obligation does two things: it excuses the behavior of others, and it reduces our ability to be conscious and present with the pain we truly feel.

When we rush to forgiveness, we lose our connection to our original wounds.

By the time the map is available it is useless, life has changed its tracks. Life has started playing a new game. You cannot cope with life with maps because it is not measurable, and you cannot cope with life by consulting guidebooks because guidebooks are possible only if things are stagnant. Life is not stagnant—it is a dynamism, it is a

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“Trust but verify” is code for “ya I don’t trust you at all”