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He who jumps into the void owes no explanation to those who stand and watch.
– Jean-Luc Godard
If you can’t say “no” easily, you can’t be trusted.
Joe Hudson • Tweet
Here are 13 things that every skilled chaos-surfer understands:
- How something appears to you may not be how it is.
- What is said or shown may not be all there is.
- What is true for me may not be true for you.
- The same words may mean different things to different people.
- What people say may not be what they mean. Because comms is lossy and language is
Packy McCormick • visakan veerasamy on Substack
Some people find themselves by already knowing who they are, then moving towards that. Other people find themselves by knowing who they’re not, then moving away from that. Many of us work our whole lives at a combination of the two.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
Forgiveness performed from obligation does two things: it excuses the behavior of others, and it reduces our ability to be conscious and present with the pain we truly feel.
When we rush to forgiveness, we lose our connection to our original wounds.
When we rush to forgiveness, we lose our connection to our original wounds.
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If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.
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rationality is a method of dealing with uncertainty by devouring information and making simplifying assumptions about the outside world until you can convince yourself that you understand it