self trust

If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved

You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.

If you can’t say “no” easily, you can’t be trusted.

Joe Hudson • Tweet

one of the most exhausting habits, maybe even addictions, is the desire to want to be seen accurately, judged correctly, understood perfectly

there is power in letting distortion exist

when the need to be understood loosens, the energy returns to what actually wants to be made

Leona • Tweet

"Your worst sin is that you've destroyed and betrayed yourself for the Algorithm."

- Dostoevsky, 2024

charlie ️ • Tweet

Forgiveness performed from obligation does two things: it excuses the behavior of others, and it reduces our ability to be conscious and present with the pain we truly feel.

When we rush to forgiveness, we lose our connection to our original wounds.

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“I would say that the demand for the perfect is the greatest enemy of the good. Perfection is a mathematical or divine concept, goodness is a beautiful human concept that includes us all.”

-Richard Rohr

People who trust themselves trust themselves because they’re honest with themselves. More specifically, they’re honest about what they need to restrict themselves from or altogether avoid. We think that the more we trust ourselves, the fewer boundaries we’ll need; the opposite is true. The people who trust themselves the most are the ones who honor

Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control

Here are 13 things that every skilled chaos-surfer understands:

How something appears to you may not be how it is.

What is said or shown may not be all there is.

What is true for me may not be true for you.

The same words may mean different things to different people.

What people say may not be what they mean. Because comms is lossy and language is