self trust
If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.
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rationality is a method of dealing with uncertainty by devouring information and making simplifying assumptions about the outside world until you can convince yourself that you understand it
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People who trust themselves trust themselves because they’re honest with themselves. More specifically, they’re honest about what they need to restrict themselves from or altogether avoid. We think that the more we trust ourselves, the fewer boundaries we’ll need; the opposite is true. The people who trust themselves the most are the ones who honor
... See moreKatherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
We put such pressure on ourselves to know exactly who we are and what we want in every moment; it’s okay for some things to be fuzzy. People who identify with having “so many issues” are often just people who don’t have immediate or perfect closure on the ever-evolving experience of being human.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
We all have very good reasons not to trust ourselves. We’ve all betrayed ourselves badly, repeatedly, shamefully, and knowingly. Show me someone who hasn’t abandoned themselves, and I will show you a child. As we grow into adults, our world opens and we make mistakes. Ignoring your own needs and deserting yourself is a universal mistake.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
“I would say that the demand for the perfect is the greatest enemy of the good. Perfection is a mathematical or divine concept, goodness is a beautiful human concept that includes us all.”
-Richard Rohr