Reminders for myself

What if the problem isn't other people's inconsiderateness, but our own inability to tolerate the fundamental messiness of being human around other humans?

Every day, instead of taking every reaction personally, remember that most people are guarded, afraid of differences, and ruled by shame. They haven’t learned how to trust yet. They don’t know how to feel compassion for people who don’t sound and act and look like them. But when you show them compassion, you teach them to stretch and expand. You... See more

I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way) that the ability to demand creativity, impact, and control isn’t just about wanting it—it’s about earning it.

We chase the philosophy of ‘love what you do’ without first becoming great at what we do. But true freedom comes from mastery.

The moment you shift from ‘what this job is giving me?’ to ‘what am I... See more

There are times when goals make sense. Training for a marathon. Preparing for an exam. Trying to ship a product by a hard deadline. In finite, controlled, well-understood domains, goals are fine.

But smart people often face ambiguous, ill-defined problems. Should I switch careers? Start a company? Move cities? Build a media business? In those... See more

refusals shape lives just as powerfully as ambitions.