The tl;dr is that complexity of society requires many people and skillsets (cognitive and otherwise) to manage that complexity, and a lot of wealth is generated by people who are good at this. Coordination problems are real problems and the default for complex societies. The Dilbert model of society is implicitly one where engineers and... See more

Find a café you like, tip well, and keep coming back.

Eventually you stop being a customer. They save your table, friends drink free, your stuff lives behind the counter, strangers become friends.

As a neuroscientist - stop chasing the dopamine of “new.”

We write to taste life twice.”

girlhood is having to hide your journal

Quando estou muito quieta por fora, é porque dentro de mim alguma coisa grita. E eu preciso me ouvir

simple safety is such things as respecting people and avoiding humiliating things, having trigger words or just norms around what can or can’t be said, etc. And complex safety is more like when you build a ritual or a set of norms around the conversation, such that even though friction comes into it, it doesn’t cause the conversation to blow up or... See more

You’re not a content creator, you’re a writer.

You’re not a content creator, you’re an artist.

You’re not a content creator, you’re an entrepreneur.

Anyone can produce content.

Not everyone can imbue it with soul.

Stop letting people consume you.

They didn't call? Go to sleep.

They didn't message you? Put your phone down and have a better day.

They left you on read? Delete the conversation.

They didn't make an effort? Match their energy.

Never let your happiness depend on anyone.

We are overstimulated and we don’t even notice. Netflix while eating. Reels in the bathroom. Music while cooking. Podcasts on walks. We consume by default, not by intention. You keep filling every gap, Then wonder why you feel foggy and unmotivated. Boredom and silence are the real growth drivers. They give you space to think and create. That’s... See more