In other words, siblings are forced together, and then suddenly they’re not. The independence of adulthood—when proximity is no longer required and the obligations lessen—creates opportunities for siblings to build, repair, or discard the relationships of their youth, to stay stuck in or break free of the roles they played as children.
The secret to desire in a long-term relationship | Esther Perel
Our generation’s collective consciousness in regards to love is a complex/spoiled one. Through globalization and over-stimuli we are drowning in contradicting self-imposed subjective expectations and demands towards love.
To have → love.
To want → desire.
Imagination, admiration, novelty, and vulnerability play protagonist roles in the feeling of drawness towards a partner.
Neediness is an anti-aphrodisiac – anything resembling parenthood.
The erotic as an antidote to death, mechanism to survive during the holocaust. The erotic mind is full of contradictions, love them <3
I meet a lot of people searching for something (career, relationship, etc). And yet, when it’s put in front of them, they won’t pursue it because they fear pain (getting hurt, failure, etc.). So they unconsciously (and expensively) trade self protection for misery.
A relationship, notably, is not an algorithm. It is a gestalt. Far be it from me to say that I’ve figured out what relationships really are or really mean, but I know there is an intangible force formed between the centres of people that sits beyond the limits of interpretation, that is larger than itself and both of you, that cannot be explained... See more