Relationships
Alex Wittenberg and
Relationships
“Once you grow up, you realize you don’t want to be crazy in love.
You want to be calm in love,
stable in love, patient in love,
understood in love, safe in love.
Your partner should give you peace of mind and reassurance, not constant little heart attacks and high anxiety.”
In other words, siblings are forced together, and then suddenly they’re not. The independence of adulthood—when proximity is no longer required and the obligations lessen—creates opportunities for siblings to build, repair, or discard the relationships of their youth, to stay stuck in or break free of the roles they played as children.
I think that a fairly reliable mark of high intelligence is the capacity to recognize the signal within the noise of someone's 'wrong' take.
Pseudo-intelligence gleefully pours out the bathwater, raw intelligence finds & nurtures the baby.
Pseudo-intelligence gleefully pours out the bathwater, raw intelligence finds & nurtures the baby.
Heidi Priebe • Tweet
"I want to talk about the great and powerful thing that listening is. And how we forget it. And how we don't listen to our children, or those we love. And least of all --- which is so important to --- to those we do not love. But it would be so different if we did. Because listening is a strange and magnetic thing, a creative force. You can see
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if you stand firmly on a self-lain foundation of patience and trust, someone crossing your boundaries is not so threatening. let them in. see what they do in your space. remove yourself if necessary.
batty oakes • love is an allowing
What the humans like is responsiveness - by Sasha Chapin What the humans like is responsiveness
Sasha Chapinsashachapin.substack.comThis is good! So elegant. Feels like a theory of everything when it comes to relationships.