Our generation’s collective consciousness in regards to love is a complex/spoiled one. Through globalization and over-stimuli we are drowning in contradicting self-imposed subjective expectations and demands towards love.
To have → love.
To want → desire.
Imagination, admiration, novelty, and vulnerability play protagonist roles in the feeling of drawness towards a partner.
Neediness is an anti-aphrodisiac – anything resembling parenthood.
The erotic as an antidote to death, mechanism to survive during the holocaust. The erotic mind is full of contradictions, love them <3
I meet a lot of people searching for something (career, relationship, etc). And yet, when it’s put in front of them, they won’t pursue it because they fear pain (getting hurt, failure, etc.). So they unconsciously (and expensively) trade self protection for misery.
Your milieu is not the same as your sister’s. It is an ever-shifting, individual configuration of information flows. The Twitter feed you have curated is a milieu. Your friend group (which is not the same as the friend groups of the other people in that group!) is a milieu.
It is by changing your milieu that you change yourself.
Instead of asking "Are you the one," ask two questions of each of you. Do I accept my partner despite their shortcomings? Do I commit to nurture them to achieve what is important to them? And likewise, do they accept me and do they commit to me? All you need is four yeses.