Relationships

People often destroy their relationships over their whims. "He doesn't go rock climbing with me." "She doesn't do this specific thing when we're having sex." They start to obsess over this lack, mistaking a flight of fancy for a great and vacuous unfulfilled desire that if satisfied, will fix everything. What could have been summarily dismissed... See more

One of the central myths of American romance right now is this notion that you and your partner should be able to tell each other anything and everything

I am begging you not to do this

There are so many things about you that are just for you, for your soul, as well as a whole other category of things that are only for your therapist or priest to... See more

the best relationships consist of a series of unbreachable private understandings

I think it’s beautiful how fidelity means both loyalty and level of detail. Because of course it should mean both those things. Of course.

"What most of us are waiting for is someone else to really think you’re okay with all your warts, just the way you are." - Charlotte Joko Beck