Relationships
Alex Wittenberg and
Relationships
Instead of asking "Are you the one," ask two questions of each of you. Do I accept my partner despite their shortcomings? Do I commit to nurture them to achieve what is important to them? And likewise, do they accept me and do they commit to me? All you need is four yeses.
George Blair-West • George Blair-West: Is your partner "the one?" Wrong question
What the humans like is responsiveness - by Sasha Chapin What the humans like is responsiveness
Sasha Chapinsashachapin.substack.comThis is good! So elegant. Feels like a theory of everything when it comes to relationships.
The Relationship-Centred City
relationshipsproject.org
Some years back my wife and I got into the habit of asking each other
‘do you want comfort or solutions’ when the other was having a bad time. That one sentence can save us from an argument 9/10 times.
Alexander Jamestwitter.comYour milieu is not the same as your sister’s. It is an ever-shifting, individual configuration of information flows. The Twitter feed you have curated is a milieu. Your friend group (which is not the same as the friend groups of the other people in that group!) is a milieu.
It is by changing your milieu that you change yourself.
It is by changing your milieu that you change yourself.
Henrik Karlsson • First We Shape Our Social Graph; Then It Shapes Us
The Tao of Leadership: Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age
John Heider • 2 highlights
amazon.comUnderstanding Others' Emotions | Lisa Feldman Barrett
youtube.comA fantastic insight by Lisa Feldman Barrett: When someone expresses anxiety, the first thing you should do is ask: do you want empathy or do you want a solution?
Will 100% use this phrase going forward.