Relating & Connection

I guess somewhere between doomscrolling Instagram, a constant thirst for my next dopamine hit, and the weight of merely trying to survive under late stage capitalism, I forgot how to be bored. Perhaps I was just afraid to be left alone with my thoughts for too long. Or if I want to get really dark with it, perhaps all the distractions are merely... See more

I remember reading an interview with author Neil Gaiman a million years ago on the importance of boredom. “We furnish our heads in desperation when we’re bored,” he said. “The best way to come up with new ideas is to get really bored.”

“if you’re not actively cultivating relationships in your life where you can have conversations about accountability, then you are actively cultivating an unaccountable life.”

― Mia Birdsong, How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community

“we should remember that giving can be transformative for the helper.... By not asking for help when you need it, you are blocking that flow.”

― Mia Birdsong, How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community

“Being on the receiving end of harmful oppressions is decidedly and specifically horrible. But wielding them has its own corrupting and denigrating impact on the imposer. This is important to understand, not because it makes those who hold privilege and power “victims” or somehow as equally harmed as those who experience racism, sexism, and... See more