relationship with self

The desire to be special can only exist if you don’t know who you are.

you don’t build self trust by monitoring yourself constantly to see if you’re trustworthy

If you haven’t stepped out of your comfort zone in a while, it might be time to try. Experiencing the unfamiliar allows us to practice being agile, because we’re not always able to default to our usual cognitive response patterns in new contexts.

A man who lies to himself is often the first to take offense.

— Dostoevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

It might seem like you need some wiser person to tell you what the specific advice is, but not really. Say the idea of carpe diem resonates with you. You can ask yourself, “How would I ‘seize the day’ on this sleepy Tuesday afternoon in my office?” and a more specific principle might occur to you:Attempt difficult tasks at times when you want to do... See more