“Solitude is for me a fount of healing which makes my life worth living. Talking is often a torment for me, and I need many days of silence to recover from the futility of words.” —Carl Jung
letting go of the idea I need fixing, but also learning to recognize that sometimes under the voice that says "I need fixing" is a voice saying "I'm in pain and alone, come find me & love me" . and responding to that voice feels so different than trying to fix myself
you don’t need to understand yourself fully. you can’t. you are an organism of complexity beyond your own comprehension
all you need to do is notice what you notice, meet it with love & warmth, and allow yourself space to bloom
My most effective life hack has been to learn to be with my inner experience, just as it is. It changes everything.
Unfortunately, most people want a more complicated solution and are dissatisfied with that answer.
I just sit with that. :)
An interesting observation in Maslow's work on self-actualized people is that they tend to be less "introspective" than others. Meaning they spend less time thinking about themselves and their feelings. But they are more attuned to their inner compass when *acting on the world*.