recovery

life is heavy enough without you adding your own self-seriousness to it, you've got to learn to take yourself lightly, life falls into place after that

maybe "lie constantly to everyone for convenience" is a bad cultural value that causes more problems than we realize

Recovery as spiritual journey:

First you desperately seek an object to bring you happiness, then, after many face plants, you realize no object can do that, so you stop running and finally face what is, where healing and recovery begin, but then, confronted by your naked wounds without your familiar escape hatch, that too becomes a chase, a far... See more

You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. It was books that taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, who had ever been alive.

― James Baldwin

Until we’re treating ourselves with dignity when we are struggling, we’re not healing.

Humans aren’t meant to excavate their inner feelings until they find their “true self.” We become ourselves in relation, not through introspection.

Most people live their lives in between these 2 emotions-

1. Hope that if they achieve something, they will find happiness.

2. Fear that if they lose what they have, they will never be happy.

The day you understand neither of them are actually true is the day you are free.