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Fourth, use the new belief often and make it part of your identity. Your beliefs are the stories about yourself that you have accepted to be true … so you can decide to change the stories.

That, in essence, is why the same telegram may mean something different for Watson and for Holmes. For Holmes, it triggers the expected pattern associated with a mindset that is habitually set to solve crimes. For Watson, it hardly matters and is soon trumped by the pretty sky and the chirping birds. And is that really such a surprise? In general,

First, remember that 80 percent of changing anything is about why you want to change and only 20 percent is about how you do it. It is as simple as having a reason and deciding that you want to change your beliefs. Take responsibility.

Rejection Then Retreat Because the rule of reciprocation governs the compromise process, it is possible to use an initial concession as part of a highly effective compliance technique. The technique is a simple one that we can call the rejection-then-retreat technique, although it is also known as the door-in-the-face technique. Suppose you want me

High current profitability often leads to overconfidence among managers, who confuse benign industry conditions with their own skill – a mistake encouraged by the media, which is constantly looking for corporate heroes and villains.

the individual human mind is like a computer terminal connected to a giant database. The database is human consciousness itself, of which our own consciousness is merely an individual expression, but with its roots in the common consciousness of all mankind.

The mind, according to this view, is like a little person inside our heads, sitting in the control tower, receiving data from the outside and issuing commands to the body. Questions about dualism aside, what's interesting here is that the mind is in control of the body.

This way of looking at things is useful, but incomplete, because influence runs

You know the old adage that people only want what they can’t have? Well, there is some truth to it. Parents, for example, often observe this phenomenon in their children: a toy will immediately become far more attractive if a child is expressly forbidden from playing with it

Not to mention relentlessly proving yourself is exhausting and unsettling. Self-compassion lets you see the facts and accept that you’re not perfect. As famed psychologist Albert Ellis once said,