mantras
Poet Marianne Moore offers a simple life strategy: "I've made it a principle not to be over-influenced by minor disappointments."
similarly - don’t be over-influenced by awkwardness
Generosity is not timidity, empathy or availability
Vulnerability without boundaries is not vulnerability. It might be fear or anxiety. We have to think about why we’re sharing and, equally important, with whom. What are their roles? What is our role? Is this sharing productive and appropriate?”
Brené Brown • Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts.
I like the term generalist, it’s one of the best descriptions of my career(s) and also a good representation of something I see as vital: being able to understand different domains and translate between them.
Patrick Tanguay • Generalists
When stumped by a life choice, choose “enlargement” over happiness. I’m indebted to the Jungian therapist James Hollis for the insight that major personal decisions should be made not by asking, “Will this make me happy?”, but “Will this choice enlarge me or diminish me?” We’re terrible at predicting what will make us happy: the question swiftly ge... See more
oliverburkeman.com • Oliver Burkeman's Last Column: The Eight Secrets to a (Fairly) Fulfilled Life
Almost everything that is meaningful, beautiful, life-affirming, empowering, transformational, true—it can’t be reached by shortcuts. But what we can do is make the longcuts walkable, put out footbridges and stairs, and a table where the ocean comes into view.
On Shortcuts and Longcuts
"If we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known"
if you come across an explanation of vulnerability that doesn’t include setting boundaries or being clear on intentions, proceed with caution. Vulnerability for vulnerability’s sake is not effective, useful, or smart.
Brené Brown • Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts.
“The feeling of progress is one of the best feelings of all. This is true even when progress is small.”