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Anger and hostility do not garner influence. Resist the temptation to resort to them at all costs. Lashing out at a player, child, employee, wife, etc., is emotional (more on that later), and it does not foster commitment. It may foster compliance, but certainly not commitment.

Fear-based passivity must be acknowledged, confronted, and pushed out of a young man’s life.

Create Anticipation It has always encouraged my sons when I acknowledge they're becoming young men. So talk up The Talk. Let your son know that you are going to be makiìng time for the two of you to discuss manhood.

A month or so before the event, let your son know in a general way that in four or five Saturdays you will be spending the day with

These values, according to Kreeft, are wisdom, self-control, courage, and justice. More than ever, we need to raise young men who have these values deep in their hearts. Imagine your son standing tall as a man with a life defined by wisdom, self-control, courage, and justice.

Here are some of the signs that can help you determine your son is probably ready for an initial Talk. Some ef When signs will be obvious to you. Others you will need to ask about. In either case, discussing these changes can offer you a relatively easy conversation path that leads in a clear direction.

• Physical changes

• Underarm hair

• Facial hair