manhood

Consider that maybe the reason you are unhappy is because the world around you is so great, and you have no challenge to push against. Also consider what meaningful pain you would be willing to endure if it meant a life of fulfillment. Then, get to work in all ways of making yourself capable of bearing it.

During our working years, many men become consumed by chasing promotions, closing deals, or accumulating wealth and assets. We rationalize missing family events, occasions with close friends, or leisure activities because our jobs demand relentless effort and focus.

There’s a fine line between self-respect and arrogance. Know where it is, and act accordingly. If you’re taking these lessons to heart, your life is, without a doubt, going to improve. People are going to think more highly of you. You’re going to think better about yourself. The results you produce are going to improve. Life is going to get better.

And then, alas, there is the church. Christianity, as it currently exists, has done damage to masculinity. When all is said and done, I think most men in the church believe that God put them on the earth to be a good boy. The problem with men, we are told, is that they don't know how to keep their promises, be spiritual leaders, talk to their

You see, ultimately, my conviction as a follower of Jesus is that we are called to help our sons become like Jesus. My vision is not to produce men who conform to a list of traits that cause the world to say, “Now that’s a man!” My goal is to help our sons become like Jesus. It’s what my goal was for my son when I started out on this path, and

Trust and honesty require you to put the needs of others above your own. If you can’t do that, don’t you dare call yourself a leader of others.

I’m asking you to widen the gap between what you feel and what you do.

What does our culture tell us? Life should be easy, you’re important, your life is about you, you should try to control everything, and you can live forever. And as a result, all of that emphasis on the self and self-fulfillment produces an extended adolescence, where men never grow up or reach their full redemptive potential.