manhood

Create Anticipation It has always encouraged my sons when I acknowledge they're becoming young men. So talk up The Talk. Let your son know that you are going to be makiìng time for the two of you to discuss manhood.

A month or so before the event, let your son know in a general way that in four or five Saturdays you will be spending the day with

8. Talking Positively About Him to Others

One of the most positive things I remember about my dad is how he always bragged to his friends about how strong I was. He would say, “This kid is strong as an ox.” Every time, my chest would puff out a bit.

What is a transcendent cause? It is a mission that lifts us beyond ourselves, a passion that stirs us to a self-sacrifice and causes us to contribute to the larger community. A transcendent cause is not something we do in addition to everything else; instead, it is the one factor that motivates everything else we do. Put in the simplest terms, we

We dug into the practice of stewarding our time—wasting it, investing it, using it, spending it, and redeeming it. We did the same with money.

This is key. This is what men need. All of us need actual discipleship and development, specific advice and skills and ways of living in the world that help us learn how to be good at being men.

Boys need to be separated from the comforts of childhood and consciously handed over to the community of men to begin the formation process. They exit boyhood and enter a “gray space” until they’re welcomed back into the community as a man.

CHAPTER 1 REVIEW

1. If you hope to build a strong and lasting relationship with your son, you will have to change. It is time to begin the transition from the "command-and-order" mode to one of "friend-and-counselor."




2. The Talk should be seen as more than a single conversation. The over-arching goal of The Talk is that it opens a door to a deep and

I didn’t learn anything from football, but coaches taught me how to fall forward, how to get up after I fail, and how to be disciplined and hard-working. I played for men who showed me how to strive for greatness on the field and in the classroom (I had several high school coaches who taught honors and AP classes). I learned how to live out my

Kindness “What is desirable in a man is his kindness” (Proverbs 19:22).