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That's why it is especially important that you enter into The Talk determined that this is not a time for anger, judgment, condescension, correction, or reprimand. Place your entire focus on encouraging, informing, and building a close relationship with your son. At various points in The Talk you will have to bring up areas where your son may be

This is key. This is what men need. All of us need actual discipleship and development, specific advice and skills and ways of living in the world that help us learn how to be good at being men.

Young men need a liminal space where they are removed from the normal rhythm and routine of life and given time and opportunity to see what is inside them. They need space to encounter those who have grown up in completely different cultural contexts and bond with other men. In modern life, nothing does this quite as well as a gap year.

Our goal as fathers is to help our sons discover who God has made and called them to be. We are not to make them in our own image but to help them along the path of grace so that they are renewed in the image of their Creator. This will bring them confidence and vision to move forward.

But during their first week of college, I received frantic calls from two of them. One had lost his virginity at a party, and the other had gotten radically drunk for the first time. They just weren’t equipped; they were not prepared for what college was going to throw at them. They definitely could have used a bit of time between high school and

CHAPTER 10 QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSING PERVERSIONS

1. "What do you think it means to be perverted?" "How does the Bible explain perversion?"




2. "What is the difference between a sexual pervert's sin and your own sin?" There is no difference; the penalty for sin is death. The only difference between one sinner and the next is the saving work of Christ Jesus

What was your daily ritual like? Nate and I met every day before school from 5:45 a.m. until about 6:30, depending on what we were going through at the time. This gave us some solid boundaries from the beginning—there is no formation without repetition and consistency. This morning time was the meat and potatoes of the entire journey. We went to