about relationships

The richest relationships are often those that don’t fit neatly into the preconceived slots we have made for the archetypes we imagine would populate our lives—the friend, the lover, the parent, the sibling, the mentor, the muse. We meet people who belong to no single slot, who figure into multiple categories at different times and in different... See more

Friendships are, by their very nature, made of friction. To know what is going on in someone’s day-to-day life, to make plans with them, and then reschedule those plans when someone inevitably gets sick, and then bring over Calpol or soup or an extra laptop charger. To water their plants while they’re away, to ask them to take your kids when you’re... See more

Myself and people my age have been trained under the illusion that we can effectively eliminate any and all friction from our lives. We can work from home, Amazon prime everything we need, swipe through a limitless array of mediocre dates, text our therapist, and have a person go to the grocery store for us when we don’t feel like it, all while... See more

A veces imagino las relaciones humanas como algo blando, agua o arena, y que al verterlas en un recipiente concreto les damos forma. Así, la relación entre una madre y su hija se vierte en un recipiente etiquetado como «madre e hija» y adquiere los contornos del envase, y ahí dentro se queda, para bien o para mal. Puede que unas amigas enemistadas

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