Ideas I want to write about
“Truly showing belief in others will buy them a ticket to someplace they never knew.”
-h/t sean feeney
Conflict at work is often due to a person’s feeling defensive out of a fear of losing face. To prove himself he sets certain goals for how others should treat him, and then expects rigidly that others will fulfill those expectations. This rarely happens as planned, however, because others also have an agenda for their own rigid goals to be
... See moreMihaly Csikszentmihalyi • Flow: The Psychology of Happiness
He finds it hard to trust or depend on others, or even to let them have their own space — space that he does not control. He still harbors a deep, unconscious terror that he will once again be used and betrayed. Dominating every situation becomes his only way of creating a sense of safety for himself. He does, however, become skillful at making... See more
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He finds it hard to trust or depend on others, or even to let them have their own space — space that he does not control. He still harbors a deep, unconscious terror that he will once again be used and betrayed. Dominating every situation becomes his only way of creating a sense of safety for himself. He does, however, become skillful at making things happen in the world, and this becomes one of the gifts of the aggressive pattern.
This is often why Idealists (INFJ, INFP, ENFJ and ENFP) do not do well in the corporate world. We are not driven by external rewards, and the corporate world usually has very little else to offer.
Lauren Sapala • The INFJ Writer
When competitive rivalries flared up within his company, he gave each employee clearly defined and independent tasks so they didn’t compete with one another for the same responsibilities. This is important in a start-up environment where roles are often fluid. A company in which people are evaluated based on clear performance objectives—not their
... See moreLuke Burgis • Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life
Stalk your greatest desire. When you find it, let all of your lesser desires be transformed so that they serve the greatest one.
Luke Burgis • Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life
People high in emotional OE are sometimes accused of ‘overreacting’, and their intensity is often misunderstood as a sign of emotional immaturity. Their compassion and concern for others, their focus on relationships, and the intensity of their feelings may also interfere with everyday tasks and hold them back from achieving in life (Piechowski and
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