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seem nice enough. If a woman seems really nice, she is considered more nice than competent. Since people want to hire and promote those who are both competent and nice, this creates a huge stumbling block for women. Acting in stereotypically feminine ways makes it difficult to reach for the same opportunities as men, but defying expectations and re

I noticed that more and more of these savages had a story about a strange and terrible Woman Land in the high distance.

What proves problematic is not individual competition per se, but rather its self-referentiality, which escalates into absolute competition. That is, the achievement-subject competes with itself; it succumbs to the destructive compulsion to outdo itself over and over, to jump over its own shadow. This self-constraint, which poses as freedom, has de

The transformation of desire happens when we become less concerned about the fulfillment of our own desires and more concerned about the fulfillment of others. We find, paradoxically, that it is the very pathway to fulfilling our own. The positive cycle of desire works because the primary thing being imitated is the gift of self.

It particularly feels like a trap when a woman has worked hard to achieve excellence in her field only to have to either “do lunch” badly or else refuse these social occasions and be thought of as a snob or a little weird.

When we are stressed out, we tend to clench parts or all of our bodies, constricting the natural flow of qi until it stagnates, leading to tissue, organ, or system disorders. In my experience, stress is at the root of most of women’s health concerns. It sets off hormonal imbalance and causes qi to stagnate, conditions which can lead to everything f

Conflict at work is often due to a person’s feeling defensive out of a fear of losing face. To prove himself he sets certain goals for how others should treat him, and then expects rigidly that others will fulfill those expectations. This rarely happens as planned, however, because others also have an agenda for their own rigid goals to be achieved

Many mothers look for part-time and flexible work so that they can manage all of this extra unpaid work, but only 10 per cent of jobs are advertised as part-time, with just 1 in 4 jobs specifying any type of flexible working,9 so many women are forced to work in jobs that are well below their skill level. On top of this, part-time work is paid at a