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He finds it hard to trust or depend on others, or even to let them have their own space — space that he does not control. He still harbors a deep, unconscious terror that he will once again be used and betrayed. Dominating every situation becomes his only way of creating a sense of safety for himself. He does, however, become skillful at making... See more
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He finds it hard to trust or depend on others, or even to let them have their own space — space that he does not control. He still harbors a deep, unconscious terror that he will once again be used and betrayed. Dominating every situation becomes his only way of creating a sense of safety for himself. He does, however, become skillful at making things happen in the world, and this becomes one of the gifts of the aggressive pattern.
Confronting questions:
Which of my current views would change if my incentives were different?
Which of my current views would I disagree with if I were born in a different country or generation?
What do I think is true but is actually just good marketing?
What do I ignore because it’s too painful to accept?
Who has the right answers but I ignore
If we don't learn to mythologize our lives, inevitably we will pathologize them.
Richard Rohr
What most couples don’t understand is that all couples create a patterned style of communication around difficult topics. This interaction frequently takes on a life of its own. The interaction is actually bigger than both people. In reality, the problem is created and maintained by both people: there is not such thing as one-person problems, and
... See moreErin Belanger-Freeh • Renewing Your Relationship
It means that if you yearn to be free of a particular relationship and you feel that yearning lodged within you more firmly than any of the other competing and contrary yearnings are lodged, your desire to leave is not only valid, but probably the right thing to do. Even if someone you love is hurt by that.
Cheryl Strayed • Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
Falling out of love with someone you still like feels exactly like lying in a warm bed and hearing the alarm clock. No matter how good you feel right now, you know it’s time to go.
Taylor Jenkins Reid • One True Loves
Charlie Munger said learning is changing your behavior.
One of the more humbling parts of adulthood is realizing how many things belong on a list I could title:
"Things I know but haven't learned"
Jackson Dahlx.com