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Certain women’s identities or desires are treated as deserving of infinite affirmation and support, while others are treated as fair game for ridicule. In such a tight, shame-based social system, it’s no wonder that so many young women are so lonely. Mean Girl Slop and contemporary friendship culture has made a woman wanting a boyfriend, monogamy,... See more

I’d recommend assuming there’s some area of your life where you are, without realizing it, frozen in time, and that locating it matters quite a bit. Look across the three theaters of your life: work, relationships, and self-relationship, and take note of the biggest issues you face. Know that you might be looking for something that doesn’t feel... See more

We've convinced an entire generation that if work feels hard, they must be doing it wrong.

It’s worth asking not just whether to post, but what kinds of exposure feel worth giving.

my belief that everyone’s most difficult trait is tied to their most winning one, e.g. a flighty person might also be fun and whimsical, or a neurotic person might be thoughtful and curious, therefore in order to love them wholly you must appreciate all manifestations of their core being. Dualism, basically, and I’m not the first to say it, but I... See more

I didn’t want to lose anything. That was the main problem,” Sarah Manguso writes on the opening page of Ongoingness, her short book about learning to let herself forget things. She long fears being “lost in time,” until finally she realizes (as I’ve quoted once before), “the forgotten moments are the price of continued participation in life.” In... See more