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my belief that everyone’s most difficult trait is tied to their most winning one, e.g. a flighty person might also be fun and whimsical, or a neurotic person might be thoughtful and curious, therefore in order to love them wholly you must appreciate all manifestations of their core being. Dualism, basically, and I’m not the first to say it, but I t... See more
#222: In what specific way are you annoying?
I didn’t want to lose anything. That was the main problem,” Sarah Manguso writes on the opening page of Ongoingness, her short book about learning to let herself forget things. She long fears being “lost in time,” until finally she realizes (as I’ve quoted once before), “the forgotten moments are the price of continued participation in life.” In re... See more
“forgetting as a form of hedonic adaptation”

re: our incessant need to capture everything
He described modernity’s obsession with Machen —do/make—as the belief that only what we can build, manipulate, or produce is real. This becomes the default metaphysics of acceleration: faster iteration, more output, more control. But Ratzinger contrasts this with another mode of being: Verstehen and Stehen —to understand and to stand. That is, to s... See more
Luke Burgis • Everything Is Fast
I walked home that night with a sense that I needed to slow my life down so that I don’t get to the end of it and wonder where everyone went when I wasn’t looking.
Luke Burgis • Everything Is Fast
These are the run clubs and swim clubs with very robustly branded websites for some reason, websites that greet you with full-width videos of delighted people being very sweaty together. New ventures for “group conversation” or exclusive social spaces or curated clubs with sign-up flows and membership levels that evoke the rigor of a bank account r... See more
Elise Granata • What We Lose When Optimizing Community
Productivity software is a gigantic industry (lots to unpack there). And within the category, there seem to be two schools of thought: breadth of function of range of integration. i.e. "software that can do everything you need” or “software that can connect to all your other software” —— These two approaches are fueled by the same thing: “how can w... See more
STR4TSTR4TS_v169
A friend asked a Busy Guy to lead a project, and instead of saying yes or rejecting it, the Busy Guy said: “I can’t commit to that, but I can commit to thinking about it, and if I come up with something I’m excited about, I’ll do it.”
Such tact in that answer.
-DP
American society’s extreme individualism, electronic financial system, and thoroughly impersonal consumer retail setup mean that most adults can obtain 99% of their essential needs without real social networking of any kind. The system we live in is established mostly on impersonal trust. Every ordinary product or service in America is available wi... See more