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A delay builds up the perception of it

many of these people are meant to be reinterpolated: he creates something and people are meant to quote-tweet it.

In the wilds of the internet, some “gap” references are played solely for laughs; others appear completely serious. Many fall somewhere in between: They go for cheeky and knowing while making a sincere point—usually about approaching the gap in question with caution, or avoiding it entirely. And this category is the kind that can get in your head;... See more

I’m not surprised that people are wrestling with what it means to desire someone different from them. Since the rise of dating apps, singles—instead of coupling up with people in their social bubble, who are likely to be similar to them—have become more likely to date across race, education, and religious lines. This is a big societal shift, but... See more

Certain women’s identities or desires are treated as deserving of infinite affirmation and support, while others are treated as fair game for ridicule. In such a tight, shame-based social system, it’s no wonder that so many young women are so lonely. Mean Girl Slop and contemporary friendship culture has made a woman wanting a boyfriend, monogamy,... See more

I’d recommend assuming there’s some area of your life where you are, without realizing it, frozen in time, and that locating it matters quite a bit. Look across the three theaters of your life: work, relationships, and self-relationship, and take note of the biggest issues you face. Know that you might be looking for something that doesn’t feel... See more

We've convinced an entire generation that if work feels hard, they must be doing it wrong.