Health - Mental
by Lael Johnson · updated 2h ago
Health - Mental
- Ask culture and guess culture are vastly different in behavior and expectations. Here are some highlights:
Ask culture expectations- Ask for what you want, even if it seems out of reach or like a big unreasonable request
- Take care of your own needs, and others will take care of theirs
- It’s fine to make requests that people will probably say no to
- People
from Ask vs Guess Culture by Jean Hsu
Lael Johnson added 2h ago
- I am convinced that some people are driven to addictions to quiet their constant inner critic, but it only gives them another thing to hate about themselves. What a vicious cycle! Moral scrutiny is not to discover how good or bad we are and regain some moral high ground, but to begin some honest “shadowboxing” which is at the heart of all spiritual... See more
Lael Johnson added 3d ago
If as a child you were unable to internalize a deep sense of love and security, you might now carry a persistent feeling of being not good enough – that you are somehow disgusting, ugly, stupid or flawed. This may involve internal thoughts such as, ‘Nothing I do is good enough’, ‘There is something fundamentally wrong with me’, or even ‘I am bad an
... See morefrom Emotional Sensitivity and Intensity: How to manage intense emotions as a highly sensitive person - learn more about yourself with this life-changing self help book (Teach Yourself) by Imi Lo
Lael Johnson added 5d ago
We put such pressure on ourselves to know exactly who we are and what we want in every moment; it’s okay for some things to be fuzzy. People who identify with having “so many issues” are often just people who don’t have immediate or perfect closure on the ever-evolving experience of being human.
from The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler
Lael Johnson added 5d ago
- I'm not available." - Helps establish off-hours and personal time boundaries.
"I need you to help me." - Encourages teamwork and shared responsibility.
"I don't agree." - Clearly states disagreement while remaining open to finding a mutual solution.
"I understand you need my help, but I cannot work on this right now." - Balances empathy with personal ... See moreLael Johnson added 6d ago
- Forgiving doesn’t mean you forget or excuse the hurt; it means you choose your peace over your pride, your joy over your anger. It means you stop letting the past poison your present.
Forgiveness is the ultimate act of self-care. It’s not about them—it’s about you, your well-being, and your ability to live a life unburdened by the weight of perceive... See morefrom Forty Years, Forty Lessons
Lael Johnson added 6d ago
- classic Adult Child of Alcoholics, afraid of conflict and largely focused on the need for everything to be OK
from It's such a gamble when you get a face
Lael Johnson added 7d ago
Adopting a self-compassionate outlook is one of the best ways to feel less stress. Instead of judging and finding fault with yourself, you can lower your stress by using a gentler approach with yourself.
from Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence by Lindsay C. Gibson
Lael Johnson added 7d ago
- So, on your worry list, write down the best outcome for each problem, the worst outcome, and the most likely outcome. Then add what you would do in each instance. This makes the source of worry specific and gives you a management plan.
from How to Worry Less and Be Happier by Arthur C. Brooks
Lael Johnson added 9d ago