good questions
I think “And what else?” is the best coaching question in the world. It does two things: It extends the period of curiosity, and it tames your advice monster.
To make our communications more effective, we need to shift our thinking from “What information do I need to convey?” to “What questions do I want my audience to ask?”
Dan Heath • Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die
What’s working, and how can we do more of it?” Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Yet, in the real world, this obvious question is almost never asked. Instead, the question we ask is more problem focused: “What’s broken, and how do we fix it?
Dan Heath • Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard
Instead of asking: "Do you have any questions?", ask "What questions do you have?"
The first almost always results in silence, while the second helps people feel comfortable asking questions.
The questions in every intimate relationship and close friendship are the same: Can you see this person clearly? Will you let them see you clearly? Are you too afraid? Are you too ashamed? Can you feel your feelings? Can you dare to let someone into your heart and trust them? Can this person let you in, or are they secretly terrified?
Talking about friendship with Heather Havrilesky
How do you know? It’s a question we need to ask more often, both of ourselves and of others. The power lies in its frankness. It’s nonjudgmental—a straightforward expression of doubt and curiosity that doesn’t put people on the defensive.
Adam Grant • Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know
Typical open-ended questions are variations on “Tell me more” and “Help me understand better ….”
Roger Fisher • Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
Effective leaders ask questions rather than providing answers. The questions are key. Great leaders don’t tell people, they don’t direct people, and they don’t order people around. They facilitate great thinking through self-reflection. We talked about one ego-bypass question in an earlier chapter: “What would ‘great’ look like?” Here are a few
... See moreCy Wakeman • No Ego: How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Workplace Drama, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results (How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Drama in the Workplace, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results)
What if you gave yourself the gift of inner acceptance? What would it open up for you?