friendship
The expected reflex in our generation’s female friendships is to immediately validate and emotionally coddle, no matter what. Everyone wants the village, but nobody wants to be a villager.
Maia Zelkha • The Female Loneliness Epidemic
have we all become narcissists?
Closeness means we’ll change each other ways we can’t predict. I’m still getting used to both that lightness and that weight.
modern friendship
Yet to admit as a woman that you’re lonely is, in a way, a failure of status. To admit to loneliness is to confess that you are not “chosen,” that you are not seamlessly integrated into the right microcultures. To be a lonely woman violates the expectation that women are naturally relational and socially fluent. Unlike male loneliness, female... See more
Maia Zelkha • The Female Loneliness Epidemic
Love is the drug, friendship the cure.
A growing number of younger people are abstaining—not only from alcohol, but also from sex. Romantic relationships, too, seem to be losing their cultural primacy. Single-person households are rising, and the notion of heterofatalism is becoming increasingly mainstream, especially among women. In this shifting... See more
A growing number of younger people are abstaining—not only from alcohol, but also from sex. Romantic relationships, too, seem to be losing their cultural primacy. Single-person households are rising, and the notion of heterofatalism is becoming increasingly mainstream, especially among women. In this shifting... See more
True connection is sometimes lost in the way we currently articulate our friendships: through instagram tags or other forms of signaling. It’s when you feel comprehended, truly understood, free in ways you weren’t before.
modern friendship
The important part is choosing re-engagement and revival. Hua Hsu in Stay True: Friendship rests on the presumption of reciprocity, of drifting in and out of one another's lives, with occasional moments of wild intensity.
modern friendship
Author and journalist Edward St. Aubyn on friendship:
"They had drifted apart, as people do when they promise to stay in touch; the ones who are going to stay in touch don't need to promise."
"They had drifted apart, as people do when they promise to stay in touch; the ones who are going to stay in touch don't need to promise."
3-2-1: On becoming hard to copy, the power of fundamentals, and three qualities that matter
Fighting against catch-up culture isn’t easy because it involves challenging every element of what’s considered “productive” adulthood, where work, personal development and romantic relationships often take priority, while “unproductive” hours lounging around with friends fall by the wayside. It also may involve confronting our addiction to... See more