conversations with friends
it takes ninety to 200 hours to turn a stranger or acquaintance into a close friend.
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
Question to ask kids : I was asked a few weeks ago by a reporter about tips for questions to ask children in your life to engage them in a better conversation than asking what they did at school and hearing, "Nothing". Here's one of the suggested questions I shared: " If you could relive one moment of your day again, which one would you pick? "... See more
Jessica's Friday Five: My earthquake wake-up call
If you could change one decision you’ve made, what would it be?
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
What kinds of stories do you find yourself continually drawn to?
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
“I’m sorry that I ____ and that it led to ____. In the future, I’ll ____ so this doesn’t happen again.”
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
TIP ONE: ASK DEEP QUESTIONS
A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance... See more
A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance... See more
Susan Cain • How to turn "small talk" into Big Talk
Photos of men with their wives, an often functional arrangement not rendered from romantic love, are often much less affectionate or loving. Women, too, thought of their best friends as more than what a husband could ever offer: loyal, supportive, sympathetic, clever, and funny. Same sex friendships were often considered the best relationships one... See more
Roger's Bacon • Friendship Forever
the best recipe for friendship would be structural, ensuring that everyone lives in well-designed, safe, spontaneity-enhancing neighborhoods with walkscores of 90 or above.
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
Grab your journal and make a list of the things your friends do that give you the feeling of being valued and connected. Then list the things that you do to demonstrate your commitment to your friends. Are there things you can do more of? Have you ever asked a friend what actions they appreciate the most as a demonstration of caring and dedication?
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