conversations with friends
As you’ve gotten older, have you outgrown any previously-held beliefs?
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What kinds of things do you wonder about?
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What were you like as a 16 year old? How are you similar to that child, and how are you different?
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
What are some places that you feel connected to?
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
We too often think that deep conversations have to be painful or vulnerable conversations. I try to compensate for that by asking questions about the positive sides of life: “Tell me about a time you adapted to change.” “What’s working really well in your life?” “What are you most self-confident about?” “Which of your five senses is strongest?”
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What’s something you haven’t eaten in a really long time that you’d like to have again?
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What’s a lesson that has stuck with you since childhood?
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
“Can you say more about that?”, “Can you give me an example?”, or “How did that make you feel?”