conversations with friends

If you could pick any two people to have as next door neighbors, who would you pick and why?

What kinds of stories do you find yourself continually drawn to?

The five main types of compatibility I’ve observed are: chemistry, communication style, lifestyle, socializing style, and values.

When you were a child, did elders in your life ever say certain sayings or proverbs about life? If so, what are one or two that you remember?

“Can you say more about that?”, “Can you give me an example?”, or “How did that make you feel?”

when I’m in a conversation with someone now, I’m trying to push against that and get us into narrative mode. I’m no longer content to ask, “What do you think about X?” Instead, I ask, “How did you come to believe X?” This is a framing that invites people to tell a story about what events led them to think the way they do. Similarly, I don’t ask peo

What’s a lesson that has stuck with you since childhood?

As you’ve gotten older, have you outgrown any previously-held beliefs?