conversations with friends

As you’ve gotten older, have you outgrown any previously-held beliefs?

What kinds of things do you wonder about?

What were you like as a 16 year old? How are you similar to that child, and how are you different?

What are some places that you feel connected to?

We too often think that deep conversations have to be painful or vulnerable conversations. I try to compensate for that by asking questions about the positive sides of life: “Tell me about a time you adapted to change.” “What’s working really well in your life?” “What are you most self-confident about?” “Which of your five senses is strongest?”

What’s something you haven’t eaten in a really long time that you’d like to have again?

What’s a lesson that has stuck with you since childhood?

“Can you say more about that?”, “Can you give me an example?”, or “How did that make you feel?”