conversations with friends
There is no such thing as closeness without friction.
The Friendship Theory of Everything
FISS. “What is something Funny, Interesting, Silly, or Surprising that you've seen, or has happened to you, since we last spoke?”
💍 Why More Marriages End When Wives Get Sick Than When Husbands Do. Short read: a study of 25,000 European couples aged 50+ found that men struggle more than women with a partner’s declining health, potentially jeopardizing the couple’s stability. Marriages are 7x more likely to end in divorce when the wife is the partner who gets sick versus the ... See more
The Curious About Everything Newsletter #49
In his book on friendship, John O’Donahue asks:
“When was the last time you had a great conversation? A conversation that wasn’t just two intersecting monologues, but when you overheard yourself saying things you never knew you knew, that you heard yourself receiving from somebody words that found places within you that you thought you had lost, and... See more
“When was the last time you had a great conversation? A conversation that wasn’t just two intersecting monologues, but when you overheard yourself saying things you never knew you knew, that you heard yourself receiving from somebody words that found places within you that you thought you had lost, and... See more
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Photos of men with their wives, an often functional arrangement not rendered from romantic love, are often much less affectionate or loving. Women, too, thought of their best friends as more than what a husband could ever offer: loyal, supportive, sympathetic, clever, and funny. Same sex friendships were often considered the best relationships one... See more
Roger's Bacon • Friendship Forever
Contrast this to:
From the Civil War through the 1920′s, it was very common for male friends to visit a photographer's studio together to have a portrait done as a memento of their love and loyalty. Sometimes the men would act out scenes; sometimes they'd simply sit side-by-side; sometimes they'd sit on each other's laps or hold hands. The men's ve... See more
Roger's Bacon • Friendship Forever
What’s something you gave up to be here tonight, and something you’re looking forward to? What’s something you love about where you live and something you’d change? If you had a microphone and the whole world was listening, what would you say?