An authentic life
Deeply investigate anything you dislike (about yourself, others, and the world). Disgust, irritation, and contempt are rarely about what’s in front of you; they are signals, not verdicts. If you stay with them without moralising or rushing to fix, they often reveal unmet needs, unclaimed desires, or borrowed beliefs you never chose. What you reject... See more
Tamara (@museguided)
Erotic Decisions
substack.comTo make an erotic decision is to be willing to lose the self you were, for the self that might be born in the act of choosing.
We have to try to cure our faults by attention and not by will.
Maria Popova • Simone Weil on Attention and Grace
“We are so used to disguising ourselves from others that we often end up by disguising ourselves from ourselves.”
David Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
often we oppress what has the possibility of liberating us. in other words, when we don’t process our own shit, the things we secretly crave, the freedom we long to embody, we police it in others, and ourselves.
Substack • if we're lucky, we never become 'good' humans
we are everything we haven’t integrated. of course, our integrated selves are at the fore-front of our being in our day to day, when we feel empowered. but, the moment we get activated or our feelings get hurt, we become our disintegrated selves. these disintegrated selves are all the things we haven’t felt in full, all the worlds we’ve had to... See more
Substack • if we're lucky, we never become 'good' humans
“By telling them just how to do it, I took the playing around away. The gradual figuring out that brings something alive to the activity makes it worthwhile and makes it transferable to other activities.”
Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity or incompetence
Hanlon’s razor