An authentic life
often we oppress what has the possibility of liberating us. in other words, when we don’t process our own shit, the things we secretly crave, the freedom we long to embody, we police it in others, and ourselves.
Substack • if we're lucky, we never become 'good' humans
It was the friendships that I was holding onto out of guilt, not out of love. It was the dreams I clung to like they were my lifeline, even when they no longer brought me joy. And it was the constant, relentless feeling of being tired! Tired of pretending, tired of giving, tired of convincing myself that things would get better if I just kept trying. If I just kept pushing. But later, I realized that pushing when you’re already broken only makes the cracks deeper. You don’t get stronger from pushing things that aren’t meant for you. You just get more tired. You just get more lost.
While it’s probably one of the corniest things I’ll ever write in this column, I’ve come to believe that developing taste is not so unlike going to therapy; it’s an inefficient, time-consuming process that mostly entails looking inward and identifying whatever already moves you. It’s the product of devouring ideas, images and pieces of culture not... See more
Elizabeth Goodspeed on the Importance of Taste – And How to Acquire It
“So many of these thoughts and feelings live in our heads, which is not a great place for them to live. They need to come out somewhere. Once you can put them somewhere, you feel like you’re free.”
Emma Watson
In Zen, there’s a saying: When you point at another, three fingers point back at you. What you see in others - especially what triggers or disgusts you - is often an unrecognized fragment of yourself. Judgment reveals where you are still asleep. Every time you condemn another, you are projecting a shadow you have not yet integrated. The moment you... See more
Substack • The Mirror of Judgment
“By telling them just how to do it, I took the playing around away. The gradual figuring out that brings something alive to the activity makes it worthwhile and makes it transferable to other activities.”