Rutger Osinga
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Rutger Osinga
learn how to sit with yourself without reaching for noise. learn how to enjoy silence without interpreting it as failure. learn how to be alone without feeling abandoned by the world. solitude is not the absence of love. it is the ground that makes love sustainable.
gor • learn to belong to yourself without feeling the need to be with others
when you belong to yourself, you don’t ask people to fill holes they didn’t create. you don’t expect them to carry the weight of your entire happiness. you let them be human. you let them leave when they need to. you let yourself change without panic. you love without gripping.
learn to belong to yourself without feeling the need to be with others
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“When I look back at the past and think of all the time I squandered in error and idleness, lacking the knowledge I needed to live; when I think of how I sinned against my heart and my soul, then my heart bleeds. Life is a gift, life is happiness ... Every minute could have been an eternity of happiness! If youth only knew. Now my life will change,... See more
A quote by Fyodor Dostoevsky
- Doestoevsky
calling my lover "mine" but not in the way that my toothbrush or notebook are mine, mine in the way my neighborhood is mine, and also everybody else's, "mine" like mine to tend to, mine to care for, mine to love. "mine" not like possession but devotion.
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Realizing at last that we can relax and be wrong is an enormous relief. Not only can we be wrong; we can rest in the certainty that we will be. We don’t have to know everything, and we don’t have to try to manage everyone in our lives so they behave to our liking, and we don’t have to stand behind the planet and push it to make sure it turns as we
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instagram.comsuffering becomes seductive when it confirms an identity we are not ready to abandon.
The Seduction of Suffering
Deeply investigate anything you dislike (about yourself, others, and the world). Disgust, irritation, and contempt are rarely about what’s in front of you; they are signals, not verdicts. If you stay with them without moralising or rushing to fix, they often reveal unmet needs, unclaimed desires, or borrowed beliefs you never chose. What you reject... See more