Rutger Osinga
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Rutger Osinga
“We are so used to disguising ourselves from others that we often end up by disguising ourselves from ourselves.”
David Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
its the way that cis men will never willingly hand over their power or start deconstructing patriarchy, sexism, and masculinity until they are awakened to the reality of all the deep feeling that was stolen from them. they only realize when they are forced to reflect deeply about a life of failed relationships, feelings of deep incompleteness and... See more
Substack • if we're lucky, we never become 'good' humans
Worldviews and On men
o matter how much power our oppressors act like they have, these people feel the most powerless internally. because honestly, if your power comes from outside of yourself, its not sustainable, and it was never yours to begin with.
Substack • if we're lucky, we never become 'good' humans
often we oppress what has the possibility of liberating us. in other words, when we don’t process our own shit, the things we secretly crave, the freedom we long to embody, we police it in others, and ourselves.
Substack • if we're lucky, we never become 'good' humans
how we treat children is how we treat ourselves. and on a planet where children are one of the most controlled populations on earth, we treat ourselves like shit.
Substack • if we're lucky, we never become 'good' humans
we are everything we haven’t integrated. of course, our integrated selves are at the fore-front of our being in our day to day, when we feel empowered. but, the moment we get activated or our feelings get hurt, we become our disintegrated selves. these disintegrated selves are all the things we haven’t felt in full, all the worlds we’ve had to... See more
Substack • if we're lucky, we never become 'good' humans
humans are not more conscious, we don’t have more complex social systems—we just don’t try to understand the depth of the world or our fellow inter-species relatives on this planet.
Substack • if we're lucky, we never become 'good' humans
“By telling them just how to do it, I took the playing around away. The gradual figuring out that brings something alive to the activity makes it worthwhile and makes it transferable to other activities.”
“I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn’t make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground... See more
fuck the fig tree
Make time to nurture your figs. Don’t wait for them to wrinkle and go black, because they are all you’ve got.