V3、「その見た目と言動の奴が本当にヤバい犯人ってことがあるんだ」というのが一番びっくりしたかもしれない
V3、「その見た目と言動の奴が本当にヤバい犯人ってことがあるんだ」というのが一番びっくりしたかもしれない
The first step to labeling is detecting the other person’s emotional state. Outside that door in Harlem we couldn’t even see the fugitives, but most of the time you’ll have a wealth of information from the other person’s words, tone, and body language. We call that trinity “words, music, and dance.” The trick to spotting feelings is to pay close at
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And that’s because many people, I think, have an inability to believe that other people work differently. We don’t realize that you have to learn someone in the way that you learn a subject. You can’t do it only by feeling. You actually have to listen to them and believe them when they tell you how they work. That’s a very counterintuitive thing to
... See moreLori Gottlieb • Mr Good Enough: The case for choosing a Real Man over holding out for Mr Perfect
“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.”
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Some of the most successful character assassins tend to speak and think in paranoid undertones—justifiably so. After all, they operate in a realm where people really are out to get one another.
Sharyl Attkisson • The Smear: How Shady Political Operatives and Fake News Control What You See, What You Think, and How You Vote
But do other people actually look at you so much? Are they really watching you around the clock and lying in wait for the perfect moment to attack? It seems rather unlikely.
Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga • The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
He remarks that when someone says he wants to be perfectly straightforward with us, we should be on the lookout for a concealed dagger.