That moment when you realize your perfectionism isn't really about excellence - it's about control. If I can just make this thing perfect enough, I can control how people respond to it, how I feel about myself, what happens next. But perfectionism actually prevents the very
“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”
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This locks perfectionists into an exhausting behavioral pattern of pleasing people, perfecting efforts, performing for others and proving themselves. People with a healthy drive for success, on the other hand, are much more self-focused and inspired by asking themselves how they can improve. It’s a stark contrast with perfectionists, who ask ‘what
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Procrastinator perfectionists feel a sense of loss around starting that other types of perfectionists don’t encounter. Avoiding loss is perhaps the most natural emotional reflex there is, hence why the habit of hesitation is so powerful for this type.