That moment when you realize your perfectionism isn't really about excellence - it's about control.
If I can just make this thing perfect enough, I can control how people respond to it, how I feel about myself, what happens next.
But perfectionism actually prevents the very
That moment when you realize your perfectionism isn't really about excellence - it's about control. If I can just make this thing perfect enough, I can control how people respond to it, how I feel about myself, what happens next. But perfectionism actually prevents the very
This results in the perfectionist experiencing, more often than not, a compulsion to bridge the gulf between reality and an ideal themselves.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
Bradatan argues that when we find ourselves procrastinating on something important to us, we’re usually in some version of this same mindset. We fail to see, or refuse to accept, that any attempt to bring our ideas into concrete reality must inevitably fall short of our dreams, no matter how brilliantly we succeed in carrying things off—because rea
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Si is the reason why you can be uncharacteristically detail-oriented or perfectionistic about the projects you really care about
Heidi Priebe • The Comprehensive INFP Survival Guide
Procrastination is a psychological phenomenon that occurs when you really want something more for yourself, but you lack the knowledge and capability to do it.
Dan Sullivan • Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork
the confidence to fail, learn, and grow as you saturate your life with more and more meaning and improve yourself and the world around you—that’s perfectionism.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval. Most perfectionists grew up being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule following, people pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, they adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it. Plea
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