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Why Do We Want Problems to Be Someone’s Fault?
Talking about blame distracts us from exploring why things went wrong and how we might correct them going forward.
Douglas Stone • Difficult Conversations
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Often, looking for an explanation really means looking for someone to blame.
Tim Harford • The Data Detective
Talking about blame distracts us from exploring why things went wrong and how we might correct them going forward.
Roger Fisher • Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
In truth, blame is just another one of the negative programs that we have allowed our mind to buy because we never stopped to question it. Why must something always be someone’s “fault”? Why must the whole concept of “wrong” be introduced to the situation in the first place? Why must one of us be wrong, bad, or at fault? What seemed like a good ide
... See moreDavid R. Hawkins • Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender
When competent, sensible people do something stupid, the smartest move is to try to figure out, first, what kept them from seeing it coming and, second, how to prevent the problem from happening again. Talking about blame distracts us from exploring why things went wrong and how we might correct them going forward. Focusing instead on understanding
... See moreBruce Patton • Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
When competent, sensible people do something stupid, the smartest move is to try to figure out, first, what kept them from seeing it coming and, second, how to prevent the problem from happening again. Talking about blame distracts us from exploring why things went wrong and how we might correct them going forward. Focusing instead on understanding
... See moreBruce Patton • Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
When you scan for faults in the world or in yourself, you always find plenty, and each can fuel endless rumination. You wind up adopting any number of grim beliefs in order to make the equation make sense:-I’m not doing enough-I can’t stop screwing up certain vital things-The world is mean and dangerous-There’s something wrong with my brain
David Cain • It’s Okay to Feel Bad For No Reason
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WHEN TO PUT AWAY YOUR MORAL COMPASS “If you want to solve a problem—any problem that you care enough about to want to solve—you almost certainly come to it with a whole lot of ideas about it. Ideas about why it’s an important problem, what is it that bothers you exactly, who the villains are in the problem, etc. “So if you’re an environmentalist, a
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