In love, I recently realized that the thing I value most is emotional connection. Connection is of course ineffable, and for a long time my lack of vocabulary prevented me from understanding how much I needed it. It’s that warm, fluid feeling, that sense of boundarylessness between two people, the possibility of total understanding. I care about a... See more

I know that in a really great relationship or friendship, you should be able to state your needs without explanation. “I need attention.” “Some cheese would make me happy.” “I want to express a feeling that I don’t endorse.” “I am looking for a compliment.” “Can you tell me that I’m cute and good right now?”

Communicate even if it's hard. Couples nowadays make a mistake of ignoring their partner and expecting them to understand what's wrong when they're not letting them know there's a problem in the first place.

Talk about your feelings and open up. Don't shove it inside and act like there's nothing wrong. Are you feeling jealous and insecure? Let your... See more