We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships

What’s your earliest memory?

If something has gone sideways in your friendship, ask your friend to tell you what they’re feeling and thinking. Then be quiet and listen. Resist the urge to interrupt, defend, or answer back. Let them get out everything they need to say. After you clarify that you’ve understood them correctly by repeating back what you heard, ask, “Is it okay if

Has a book ever changed your life? If yes, what book was it and how did it affect you?

“A true friend is someone who is there for you when he’d rather be anywhere else.”

communication, transparency, empathy, and mutual motivation to repair the friendship.

If you knew you would be guaranteed success, what is something you would try doing?

If you could wake up tomorrow with two new talents or abilities, what would they be?

have identified a number of ingredients that are core to the creation and continuation of quality friendships. I call them the Seeds of Connection: proximity, frequency, compatibility and commitment.

When do you feel most anxious? When do you feel most calm?

Do you practice self-care? If yes, what are some examples of self-care that really nourish you?