The Only Thing to Do
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The Only Thing to Do
When that mindset stops working for you, you have to let it crumble inside you. “All growth is costly,” Kegan writes. “It involves leaving behind an old way of being in the world.”
David Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
we are simply incapable of imagining ourselves on the other side of a profound change, because the present self doing the imagining is the very self that needs to have died in order for the future self being imagined to emerge.
This is why the profoundest changes tend to happen not willed but spawned by fertile despair — the surrender at the rock bo
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Paul Graham • The Right Kind of Stubborn
Ness Labs • Liminal Creativity
Discipline is a feature of identity. When you are trying to become a new person, who you are is fighting who you want to become , and that’s painful. You will go through a period of growing pains until your new identity solidifies.
We need to take this process gradually.
We need to take this process gradually.
Dan Koe • the fastest way to create a new life
“The practices that carry the greatest potential for transformative change are usually counter- instinctual.” I take him to mean that if you’re trying to get better at life in some way– more patient, or better at listening, or less prone to procrastination or anxiety or self- sabotage– the necessary actions are pretty much guaranteed not to feel es
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