The Only Thing to Do

now. Let’s say that you are wishing you could change yourself. But changing yourself means giving up on, denying, and never again showing the face of “yourself until now,” as if you were sending it to its grave, in effect. Because once you have done that, you will be reborn as your “new self” at last. Now, regardless of how dissatisfied you may be

But changing yourself means giving up on, denying, and never again showing the face of “yourself until now,” as if you were sending it to its grave, in effect.

Theory of Positive Disintegration, which basically says that a person has to break down the Self entirely (via crisis and life experience) before they can begin true inner evolution. Dabrowski also conjectured that some people never evolve. In fact, he said that most people stay at the level of conforming to whatever society says is right for them.