The Essential Skills for Being Human
People love attention, almost more than anything. Part of what makes people open up, conversationally, is the sense that someone is paying them more attention than normal. This is usually conveyed by shared body language, shared speech patterns, and granular responses— like, for an incredibly banal example, if someone tells you they used to live in... See more
Sasha Chapin • Making Normal Conversations Better
“Say more” and “care to elaborate” are magical phrases. You can also repeat what they said. “Work has been crazy lately.” “Work has been crazy lately?” That can do a lot. The question “why is that important to you,” while more intense, can get you really far, really fast, if you sense a mood of openness, especially if you learn to ask it casually.
Sasha Chapin • Making Normal Conversations Better
So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.
Dale Carnegie • How To Win Friends and Influence People
How do we ask more expansive, generous questions that invite people to feel truly seen, fascinating, attended to ? What a gift to feel the genuine curiosity, presence, and attention of another.
ayandastood • Questions on Questions
In every crowd there are Diminishers and there are Illuminators. Diminishers make people feel small and unseen. They see other people as things to be used, not as persons to be befriended. They stereotype and ignore. They are so involved with themselves that other people are just not on their radar screen. Illuminators, on the other hand, have a pe
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