The Best Thing to Text a Friend | Cup of Jo

Whenever I’d approached him with some crazy idea—say, a five-hundred-person pillow fight in the middle of the field—he would just look at me, smile, and say, “What do you think?” Somehow, those simple words always managed to put any idea in perspective.

Best Friends: Boundaries are boring, and “Mom and Dad” are what your parents are called, not you!

If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, there’s a chance you shouldn’t say it to yourself either.

If you’re still having trouble deciphering whether a soundtrack is kind, an easy way to check is to ask yourself, “If I repeatedly told a friend this, would they still want to be my friend?”

Communicate anything that affirms your intention to keep showing up for this friendship. Our goal is to avoid our friend ever wondering how we feel about her.

SENDING ‘I SAW THIS AND I THOUGHT OF YOU’ MESSAGES I didn’t see this and think of them. I thought of them, repeatedly, and found this, in order to have an excuse to message them and crank them into communication.