the art of asking
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the art of asking
These are questions I made for a friend to ask her love interest, but they were further along and she wanted to understand how she could make him feel loved.
Questions you can ask:
- What are some examples of moments in your life where you felt the most loved, and why? Or deeply held? Or deeply safe? (It's better to ask for concrete examples from the
... See moreA deep question asks about someone’s values, beliefs, judgments, or experiences—rather than just facts. Don’t ask “Where do you work?” Instead, draw out feelings or experiences: “What’s the best part of your job?” (One 2021 study found a simple approach to generating deep questions: Before speaking, imagine you’re talking to a close friend. What qu
... See moreCharles Duhigg • Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection
How did you….
What’s it like….
Tell me about…
Where did you grow up?
That’s a lovely name. How’d your parents choose it?
What is the best way to grow old?
"What crossroads are you at?" At any moment, most of us are in the middle of some transition. The question helps people focus on theirs.
"What would you do if you weren't afraid?" Most people know tha