Creating spaces that are safe is admirable, and our addiction to safety (I wonder sometimes if it’s more about comfort, lack of conflict, or a desire to create set it and forget it containers) has at times devolved into long periods of agreement setting and developing a list of rules for every possible way of relating to one another, where the

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Features of a sustainable community: First, there’s a clear group identity with understood boundaries and purpose. Members know who is in or out and why they’re together. Second, benefits and costs are proportional. Members have a system that rewards contribution. Getting more benefits than others must be earned, or the group will collapse. Third,

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