Your Boyfriend's Ex-Girlfriend
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Your Boyfriend's Ex-Girlfriend
In the Russian nesting doll of personhood, the child is always there, deep inside the incremental persons who grew out of her, informing and influencing them, but not identical to them. The key, I think, is to hold all the selves we used to be with tenderness, but to also let them go with courage.
Maria Popova • Orion Magazine | Nature, Culture & Place
how the past informs the present—how our histories affect the ways we think, feel, and behave and how at some point in our lives, we have to let go of the fantasy of creating a better past.
Lori Gottlieb • Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
our urge for a relationship is tangled up, and sometimes confused, like a ball of mixed strands of wool, with our urge to have security and a pot of gold at the end of the working rainbow.
Catherine Gray • The Unexpected Joy of Being Single
They know what it’s like to live with the ghost of what would have and should have and maybe-still-could-be.
Brianna Wiest • 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
A final example of the power of unconscious perception and chemistry involved a man who grew up in a strict fundamentalist home and felt ashamed of his body and sexuality. He found himself drawn to women who were somewhat exhibitionistic. He unconsciously sensed that their comfort with their own bodies, with their own sexuality, would rub off on hi
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