No, you don't owe me a favor
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No, you don't owe me a favor
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Although I appreciate the gesture, I’m not The Godfather! My help doesn’t come with strings attached. If I take the time to do something for you, it’s not because I’m a matcher looking for something in return. It’s because I aspire to be a giver—I enjoy being helpful. My effort to support you means that I think highly of you and might even care abo... See more
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But if you give me something, that’s different because now I kind of feel like I owe you one. It could be a feeling of obligation, or you could say it’s a feeling of gratitude
Paul Millerd • The Pathless Path: Imagining a New Story For Work and Life
For this reason alone, we may be willing to agree to perform a larger favor than the one we received, merely to relieve ourselves of the psychological burden of debt. A Japanese proverb makes this point eloquently: “There’s nothing more expensive than that which comes for free.”
Robert B. Cialdini • Influence, New and Expanded: The Psychology of Persuasion
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"It's not about owing," Gennady said. He stepped back to look into Daniel's face. "That's so American; everything is debts and spending for you. It's not about owing, it's about what is necessary to move forward, like a roadway that comes to a river and you need a bridge or a ferry to cross. And if there is no bridge, no ferry, there's nowhere left... See more
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“You don’t owe anyone anything. They help you because they love you. Why else does anyone help anyone? Letting someone help you is the nicest thing you can do for anyone.”
Will Leitch • How Lucky: A Novel
Your obligation isn’t just to repay the gift according to a one-to-one ratio. You’re beholden to the “spirit of the gift,” a kind of shared faith. Every gesture carries a desire for connection, expanding one’s ring of associations.
Hua Hsu • Stay True: A Memoir (Pulitzer Prize Winner)
“WE HAVE TO PAY”
But what if we get to?
Imagine looking at the exchange of money as an alternative way to say things like:
Thank you!
Please keep going.
My life is better with this in it.
A signal of gratitude carries more weight than a forced action
Alex Tan • #076 Consider This!
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